.. love and fear can sometimes feel the same, but each will lead a person to take different actions. When a decision h as to be made, fear usually motivates me to choose what is best for me, whereas love motivates me to choose what is best for another person. Fear urges me to hang on, white knuckled, to what is mine, while love can actually lead me to let go.. when you hold something you love tightly to your chest for fear of losing it, you actually risk crushing it against you. Susan Meissner
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When you feel love, the natural instinct is to want to protect that person at all costs. Fear makes you want to protect that person from harm, or just from being hurt. The fear that causes people to stay in abusive relationships is not really for the other person's safety, but for their own. The person feels so scared of being hurt again, they stay in the relationship because they are afraid of what will happen to them without it. For example, a young woman who has been abused by her husband may be so terrified of what he might do if she leaves him that she stays even though she no longer loves him.

Source: Stars Over Sunset Boulevard

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